Friday, December 29, 2017

I have moved this blog to Word Press!!!

With the help of my wonderful daughter, she has moved my blog to Word Press which has more features I can use and I am now a  Yeh!

Click on the link below to go to my new site

All future posts will be on my new dot com site.  Yeh!!

Thursday, December 28, 2017

He can't even spell "his" name right?

Didn't think I'd have this story to post already but I was up late last night chatting with this dude and of course I tested him, and of course he failed.  Here is the conversation.  Again, I am lying about everything about myself.  This one even more.  :)
By the way, his name is:  Bryrant Fergurson and his English is horrible.  As you will see.  :)

Funny thing is when you ask for a photo a certain way to prove they are who they say they are they either get bent out of shape or just play it dumb.    This guy dumb.  He has no idea who he is trying to fool.  LOL!!

Wednesday, December 27, 2017

New bumper stickers

I just got my new bumper stickers to advertise my blog.  If you'd like one, just email me your address and I'll send one.  FOR FREE!!!  Yes for FREE!!
New pens are coming soon.  They should be delivered to me by next week.  And yes they are FREE too. 

And I know you're gay

Okay, here is a goodie.  Not as crazy as some but a good story to tell. 
This guy contacted me on Twitter (like they all do now).  Sweet talk, yada yada.  So I look  him up on facebook and he does have an account.  Funny part of this story is, the guy on facebook is gay and has a post that says someone is impersonating him on twitter and that everyone knows he is gay so if you receive messages from him, he is a scammer.  Oh I just had to play with this one a little.  I did message the real guy on facebook to tell him but it was before I saw his note on his facebook page.  then I sent him the link to my blog.  So far he hasn't read it.
So let's begin the conversation history.  Please note that I have started to play their game and lie about myself here and there.   I've started saying how lonely I am to get the conversation going.  As you all know I am the last person to be lonely.  :)

I finally blocked him on Christmas Eve.  He was never going to send me the picture I asked for.  Plus all these photos he stole from the facebook of the real guy.
Say tuned, I know I'll have another story.

Wednesday, December 20, 2017

Please take my survey

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Friday, November 24, 2017

Chris Evans # 3. Will the real Chris Evans please stand up

Okay, the trolls are out in full force.  Poor Chris Evans.  I've had 3 Chris Evans fakers now.  I posted a note on his twitter and the 2nd one about it but not sure he will even see it.

Anyway, here is the latest conversation.  Again I exaggerate a bit.  They can make up stories so I can too.  And here we go...

One note, the picture he sent me of him, I had already had found on the internet several months ago.  I knew he was fake but I played along.


Wednesday, November 22, 2017


I want to wish you all a wonderful Thanksgiving.  I am thankful to all of you who come back and continue to read my blog of crazy stories.  I love doing it and I wouldn't be successful with it, it wasn't for you.  THANK YOU!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Sunday, November 19, 2017

Today's catch

Okay so I am Ulta sitting and playing on my phone while my daughter shops.  Chatting with a liar.  LOL!!

Well I took the suggestion of someone on Pinterst and asked this guy to send me a picture of himself right now holding up 3 fingers.  A minute later he blocked me.  LOL!!!!!  Here is the conversation.  And remember I am making up most stuff now, if they aren't truthful neither am I.

Tuesday, November 14, 2017

ARGH! Captain Joe Morgan!!!!!!!

The name reminded of a pirate.  LOL!!  Okay, so this one is from someone who contacted me on Instagram.  Now this time I decided to tell lies myself.  And here we go:

Guess what?  I never heard back from him.  LOL!!!  Another day another scammer.

Sunday, November 12, 2017

Another Chris Evans Scammer - Is gullable tattoed on my forehead - LOL!!!

Okay, so on Instagram Chris Evans contacted me.  OMG!!  LOL!!!  I knew from the beginning he wasn't real.  I love Chris Evans but so do about 10 million other women. 

I was getting ready to go to bed and thought I'd check my phone.  Well, Chris sent me a private message.  I no longer need to use dating site, they are coming on twitter and Instagram for me so I am saving money.  LOL!!!

So here is our conversation.  Enjoy it.  I sure did.  I played along big time.

I got to use one of my favorite quotes from a movie I love again. 

Now, over on Twitter I got a message from Vin Diesel, who I also love.  LOL!!!  Nothing to tell yet but I will keep you posted.

I also got contacted by Wentworth Miller.  Now I wasn't sure who he was but I looked him up and he did the serious Prison.  So I'm playing dumb.  As the conversation progresses I'll let you know.

I did learn something cool tonight on Pinterest.  If you are chatting with someone online, make them Skype with you.  If they can't (so the say), then ask them to take a picture of themselves right now holding up 3 fingers.  Now if they do this and send the picture, then they are real.  But if they can't, you know they are fake.



Thursday, October 26, 2017

A wonderful lady sharing her story with me.

I received this message in my facebook messenger and I wanted to share it.

Hi Patsy. I am so thankful that I googled Paul Lab and came across your blog. I suspected him right from the start. I'm wondering if you also were contacted by a Stewart Clisby supposedly in the army in Poland and to be retired in 3 months. He's and incredible piece of work as well. I am so glad that you are getting the message out to vulnerable women. thank you so much. I'll attach a photo of Stewart Clisby.
My response back:
Hi Suzanne - so nice to meet you. No He doesn't look familiar. I am surprised because I've become a magnet for these guys. LOL!!!
Her response:
Nice to meet you as well Patsy. Then you probably will meet him. He was madly in love by the third email. Very long romantic messages and as much as I would tell him that I was uncomfortable with that sort of talk from a stranger he just persisted. Finally stopped all contact with me when I told him that he shouldn't speak to women in a way that he wouldn't want a strange man to communicate with his daughter if he had one. I've learned now that when someone contacts me and so very quickly removes his profile from POF that it is a red flag. Thank goodness my gut instinct rules me. Have a good evening.
Here are the pictures she sent me:

I love hearing from others and reading their stories.  It's nice to know I'm not the only one.  

Monday, October 23, 2017

He told me I was beautiful!!!! LOL!!!!!!

Today's contestant is Sanders James.  Yes that's how he has his name.  LOL!!
I really didn't give him a chance but as usual the grammar was terrible so I slammed him down right away. 

Now this guy was from Twitter.  Now I think I said this before, they are messaging me on twitter and Instagram.  I don't think I need the dating site anymore.  LOL!!!

Sunday, October 22, 2017

I received a thank you today!!!

I am so touched.  I received a facebook messenger message from a lady who ready my blog and thanked me for it.  I have copied her messages to me below. 

Hello Patsy - Thank you very much for your Stargate Lady blog. I was contacted by Paul Laub today, and found your story soon thereafter. My reply to his email was to copy-and-paste his oil rigger story to you. I am certain he will be blocking me on POF shortly, but his name on that site is now JA97230. Also, the picture I have attached is the one from his POF page. In any case, I appreciated reading through your blog! Smiles
My response: 
Thank you so much I’m so glad that my blog was able to help someone would it be OK if I just copied your story I won’t use your name but I just want to Your story so that people can see it at that I help people
Her response:
Actually, "Paul" and I did exchange a few more emails before he finally blocked me. Something is really wrong....either he isn't English as a first language, or maybe just not very bright - he couldn't write in complete sentences. At one point he started talking about himself in the third person. He was hurt/upset/angry with me for "not being a real person". He assumed I was someone he had emailed before, because he recognized his own words. At first denied, then quickly admitted he had written them. Anyway, I think I would have figured things out quickly on my own, but I am glad I found your blog.
Thank you so much for writing me.  I am glad to hear I am helping.  :)

Wednesday, October 11, 2017

Today's most crazy story I've told and heard!!!!!!!!!! And he's not in the Army!!!!!!!!!!!

Okay, this has to be the most crazy story.  Sit down and grab a drink cause here we go.
So all my friends know my love of Chris Evans and Chris Pratt (my cougar crushes).  I follow them on twitter.  Well a couple of weeks ago Chris Evans started following me on twitter.  (Of course we know this isn't the real Chris Evans), but I played along.  He mentioned he saw that am a big fans of his.  In the beginning I told him I didn't believe him but then I decided to play along.  So for a couple of weeks it's been boring exchange.  So this morning I get a message from him and now I would like to share it with you.  This one is a riot.
I was laughing so hard at this.  So he would give me 20% of his $20,000,000.  Really?  Did he think I would fall for that?  I guess I could have played along further just to see but I didn't and shut him down.
Here are the 2 profiles on Twitter.  You can see the difference where I mentioned it in my message above.

I don't really need to be on the dating site to get scammers.  I've got them on Twitter and Instagram now.  Since I joined both of those to advertise my blog, they are coming out of the word work.
Another fun day in the life of the Stargatelady. 

Monday, October 9, 2017

Today's contestant on "Try to fool the Stargatelady"

Well this one isn't in the army but works on an oil rig.  Interesting.  But the same sad story.  LOL!!!
Take a gander.

From: Paul Lab []
Sent: Friday, October 6, 2017 4:33 AM

Hi Pasty

How are you doing? Thanks for the note and response to my email and i would love to know you better. I believe this could be the beginning of a good relationship. My name is Paul,  I work as a Petroleum Geologist. I consult and act as a sub contractor with Fortune 100 companies as a project Supervisor/Contractor in Rigs offshore.. I am currently working at a Rigs offshore in NY and I am retiring in 3months time. I have a son and also a brother. parents both late.I am  widower. Story for another day. :) 

Let me know what you want to know about me and we can kick start. 

I hope to hear from you soon and hope you are having a good and productive day.



On Fri, Oct 6, 2017 at 7:24 AM, Patsy <> wrote:

So happy to hear from you.  Oh by the way it’s Patsy not Pasty.  😉

I am divorced and have a daughter.  Been divorced since 2005.  Happily divorced.  😊

I am secretary and love my job.

I had no idea we had oil rigs off of New York.  I didn’t know there was oil up there.



Paul Lab []
Sent: Saturday, October 7, 2017 2:26 PM

Hello Patsy  hope i got this right  lol

Thanks for the email, So let's get started and let me shared more insight about me, so you truly know where I am coming from and where I am going to. I hope this is a start to something wonderful. 

My Business and Line of Work:

I work as a Petroleum Geologist, And I have a tour round the world for the past 39years doing this business. It is stressful and hectic but at the same time very rewarding.  I am currently working at a Rigs offshore in NY. I am here close to the Atlantic coast, northern side NY. The reception sometimes is very bad and texting works better for me. as soon as i am done over here which should be about 6weeks. then that would be my last deal as I call it quit and enjoy the rest of my life with that special woman who will be my best friend and well as a lover. Hope that woman is you. :).  I was Born Nov 20 1960

Where would I want to settle down?:

Well, I remain opened to my partners' suggestion, and we would have to seat and talk that over. I am very mobile and would go wherever would be good and excellent for both I and that extraordinary woman. When I am not working, I stay more in NY. I do have a house in Woodside NY, and also I have a home in Whittier CA. So I am very mobile.

Little about my Family:

I lost my dad and mom alongside my sister in a car accident 2012. I do have a Brother Fredy. One of the sweetest men I know and he is my best friend, although he has some medical issue. We both are very close, and he is so kind and sweet. I have a Son Smith, and he is 22, and he is in Wales studying. Lost my wife to cancer, sad story and don’t want to talk about it. I am glad i was able to heal from it. it wasn’t easy but i was able to.

Where I am From:

My Dad emigrated from Slovakia but, lived in Wales and my Mom from the USA. They meant when my Mom went to school in Wales and later relocated to State. My dad was in the line of Mining as well, and he thought me the business or rather I would say I learned a little bit from him, but unfortunately i didn’t followed in his line. I was five years old when my dad got a big contract in Germany, so, that required we all moved to Germany and we stayed there until I was 16 and later moved to wales. When I was 21, we moved back to Germany, then Slovakia  and then transferred to the State. So it was an on and off thing 

So your Turn.

Every day can be a beautiful day, Just take a look around you and think about all of the wonderful things you have to be thankful for...the sunshine, roses, laughter, close friends, family, music, and beautiful dreams, The storm is never half as bad as it seems, Don’t let the rain ruin your day, When the dark clouds move in just smile, because the good times are on the way and you have Paul to talk to :). I am attaching some pic with this email for you. 

Have a lovely day as I await your response.



Hi Paul! 

 Glad you hear from you.  I have questions and some stuff for you.

  1. Are you really who you say you are?
  2. Are you really an oil person?
  3. Is your family really dead?
  4. Where are you really from?
  5. Who are you really?
  6. I don’t have money so if you ask me to send you money I won’t.
Perhaps I was a bit harsh.  Nah!!!!!!!!!!   Now here is the picture he was using and you know where this goes by now, right?
The Liars walls of disdain!!!!!!!!!!



Sunday, October 1, 2017

Multiple profiles - same idiot

Below is a picture of a guy from POF that I posted in June.  He constantly hits the Meet Me button on many women and I am one of them.  He continues to create more and more profiles with the same pictures.

Well today out of the blue I got and message from him and once again I blocked him.  But he will just create another one.

It's a good thing I am thick skinner and stuff like this just makes me laugh.

He needs a name.  Any suggestions?  Keep it clean.  :)
Here is his pictures from my June post.

Friday, September 29, 2017

He blocked me..... HOW RUDE - LOL!!!!

These stories are always the same but have different twists here and there.  Well this guy didn't stand a chance with me. I stomped on him right away.  Didn't feel like "playing the game".  LOL!!


In red on my last text where it shows it didn't go through, that means he blocked me.  Shame on him.  Only I can do the blocking.  LOL!!!!
Now allow me to introduce you to the guy who says him name is Roy but we know he's lying.  LOL!!!

Something I've notice probably the last couple of months is now I am getting guys contact me on Twitter and Facebook.  On Facebook I get friend requests from guys I don't know.  Today was one from a military guy.  DELETE! 
My twitter account is for my blog here and I post my blog there often.  So you would think they'd read it before contacting me.  NOPE!
So beware of people on social media that you know.  Don't accept Facebook friend requests from someone you don't know. 
And that's today's tale. 

Tuesday, September 12, 2017

I am pleased to introduce you to my new co-hort on catching scammers

As I mentioned in my last post I joined several more scammer pages on facebook.  This person contacted me about sharing my blog on his page.  And in return I will share his facebook page here.
So I asked him a few questions and he gratuitously answered them.  He has been a great resource too.  So here we go. 
Were you in the military?  If so what branch and years were you in? Are you married, do you have kids?
Well, about myself. I'm a 50 something Male, married with two adult children. I am retired Military, (US Marine Corps 1980-2000) originally from the south but now live on the West Coast. I unfortunately am also disabled which means I have a lot of free time on my hands.
How did you get involved starting your facebook about the military scammers?
I got into helping identify Military Romance Scammers as a sideline from also being interested in combating "Stolen Valor" where people claim to have been awarded rank and medals from the military in order to obtain benefits, take from charities or just get their names in the media. We had one lady who was part of our group almost get scammed into sending Walmart Gift cards to a scammer posing as a US Army Sergeant Major. The more I looked into it the more I found out just how bad the problem is. I started a face book page called Stop Fake Military Romance Scammers in 2014. Since then I have answered hundreds of questions from people about profiles on dating sites and on  Face Book.
As far as why I consider myself qualified to ID these scammers there are two main reasons. First and foremost I am a retired senior non-commissioned officer who served 20 years. Although there may have been slight changes since I left the service I am familiar in the way that military pay, leave, travel, medical and deployments work as well as most administrative matters Second I have become well versed in the methods that scammers use. They often have practically the same script they use over and over. I always talk with people who contact me and go through what the scammer has sent them. Once in a while I get a new twist that scammers throw in. I try to keep a handy "reference guide" posted on my page and I update it often.
What advice can you women on these scammers?
That's a  very complex question. I could probably do a long seminar on the subject matter In order to answer this I would like to break this question down into several sub topics as follows:

1. Who Scammers Target.

2 Who the Scammers are.

3 What type of environment ( country) allows scammers to thrive,

4 Who are the actual Victims of military romance scams.

5. What is a quick way to detect scammer profiles.

6 How the scam plays out.

7 What is a sure way to find out if someone is a Scammer.

8 The delicate issue of nude photos

9 After the scam ends

 Who Scammers Target.

 As far as a "target group" for these scammers. Military Romance Scams are a subset of the type of scams that are run via the Internet.  Although I have had a few cases of men who contact the page ( both straight and gay) the overwhelming number of people who are targeted are women over the age of 40 who are single, divorced or widowed. Although scammers certainly use dating sites they often send Friend request to women on face book with the hopes of getting a response. It's a " scattergun" tactic often used in sales. It may take a hundred friend requests on social media to get a response. Out of those hundred responses maybe 1 may fall into the trap they set. So scammers know they have to "bait" about 1,000 people to get one to send anything. I personally only use face book but I get at least one or two Friend Requests from obvious scammers a week. I'm sure the average person gets the same.  
 I also would like to add that scamming is an international problem. Close to half the people who contact my page are from nations other than the United States.
 Who the Scammers are

As far as who the scammers are it varies little. There are some who actually live in developed countries. Some are just native criminals who see how the scam works and decide to run with it . There are some people in the US that are scammers or accomplices. I've been contacted by victims who have wired or sent money to names and addresses within the US that the scammer says are a relative or agent for them. This does happen but its very risky because if reported and followed up in can result in the person who gets sent the money being charged.
   The vast majority of scammers are from West Africa ( Nigeria and Ghana) I came to that conclusion because other than having money wired to offshore accounts practically every address used as a "middleman" for funds supposedly going to a "service member" is a African name and an address  in a city in Ghana or Nigeria ( The City of Lagos is a hotbed of scammers). 
Scammers are usually young men, but they can vary in age. They are very intelligent and many are university students or well educated.

 What type of environment ( country) allows scammers to thrive

Scamming is considered a legitimate profession and totally acceptable in West Africa. These countries are very poor and the attitude is generally that western countries have been exploiting their people and resources for centuries. They see absolutely nothing wrong with theft by deception to get payback. Its part of their culture. It even has religious undertones. "Sakawa" combines the use of primitive type rites and ceremonies  and Internet scamming. In Ghana successful "Sakawa Boys" are looked up to the same way that "Gangsta Rappers" were idolized in the US. There are several songs that have been written about them and a series of locally produced movies. There is no moral compass in these movies. The scammers flaunt the lifestyle they obtained through theft and the victims aren't even portrayed. When bad fortune befalls the scammer its not because they are facing legal justice or answering for immoral acts, its because they failed to uphold their part of the "Sakawa" ritual. The Countries of Nigeria and Ghana pay lip service at most to the problem of scammers. Scammers bring in an untold amount of funds into the country. I would estimate its BILLIONS of dollars per year. Politicians and Law enforcement there get their share of this money, either directly or indirectly. Its not in their interest to shut it down. A middle Class Nigerian worker makes about 500 dollars a month  while Ghana is 35 dollars a month.  A successful scam even if it only gets 100 dollars is a huge amount of  money in those countries. A scammer who is able to do that once a week can make more money in a year than a week than most legitimate workers do in a year. Its not an exaggeration to say that a single high value scam can set up a scammer for years.
Who are the actual Victims of military romance scams

The average victim of a scammer falls into the target group I described above. Females 40-60 who are single, divorced or widowed. In addition there are several traits victims share, and I will try to not sound condescending as I list them. Please note that I'm not saying any of this as an insult. The victims are very emotionally vulnerable and like being courted and talked to by someone who shows ( or pretends to show) interest in them. They tend to feel isolated and are reaching out for company. They long to find someone who will accept them for who they are as far as age, looks and body type. They tend to be above average in intelligence, however if they become emotionally involved with a scammer they will start thinking emotionally. They  tend to use the internet a lot for social interaction rather than putting themselves on the dating scene in public. They feel it is more efficient to narrow down the search for that special someone before meeting them in person. They are open to  long distance relationships with the hope that it will end with them being together with that "special someone". They are not looking for any type of casual hookups or one night stands. They are in it for the long haul, and are willing to sacrifice a lot to get to meet "that special guy". This is something that is tailor made for a scammer to exploit.
What is a quick way to detect scammer profiles

Identifying what a typical military scammer profile looks like is a key to stopping it before it starts. First and foremost Scammers use pictures stolen from photogenic service members.  One thing that stands out is scammer profiles tend to be very basic and have only a few photos and entries on the time line and very few friends if any. The biggest thing is they will usually claim to be overseas in Syria, Iraq, Afghanistan or Africa. 
HINT: US service members never claim to be stationed in those places that is where they may DEPLOY to. Service Members are STATIONED in a Fort (Army) Camp (Marines) Air Base(Air Force) or Naval Station( Navy  in the continental United States or in places such as Germany or Korea 
If they have any hometown it will usually  be in a popular state, such as New York, California, Texas, Etc,  They will claim to be a Sergeant or an Officer and will say they attended a popular University or a service academy such as  West Point or the US Army War College.
HINT: Only officers attend West Point and only Senior Officers go to the US Army War College
One thing that I often find is because ethnic African names don't follow the same patterns as Western ones they will often combine and go by two surnames, such as  Anderson Johnson, Williams Roberts, Smith Jones, etc. 

How the scam plays out

The scam usually plays out in the following manner, I will go over this and also tell you why the story is total horse pucky.  After the initial contact the scammer will quickly open up and tell you a great bit of personal information about himself, all scripted of course. He will give you a hard luck story about how he lost his parents, and if married his wife died of cancer or in an accident or divorced him after cheating on him. He may say he is a single parent with a special needs child being looked after at a boarding school or a nanny. He may claim to be foreign born to explain  his poor grammar. 
HINT: by doing this he can explain why he has no relatives or friends actually living in the US something that is totally opposite of the truth of US service members.
Once he has gotten the attention ( and sympathy) of the victim the scammer will start in with the romance games. The scammer will say he wants to meet that "someone special" and settle down. They will play to the Victims emotions and start telling them how nice and sweet they are and start sending them romantic poems and song lyrics  and lay it on thick, He likes long walks holding hands, candlelight dinners where he cooks for them. The  man is just too good to be true. Once he gets the victim to fall for the spiel he starts setting the hook. He insists that as soon as he can he is coming "home" to see his "true love". Once the victim is happily waiting for "her dream man" to " come home" the scammer will start having money issues or need things such as a phone card or even a phone to call on. Also he may ask for money for food or medical needs or clothing or to take care of bills he has because he has no access to his pay.
Hint: Service members that are deployed are fed clothed and all medical care is provided by the military. They also have full access to their pay and can meet any financial obligations they have.
Once the scammer starts getting the victim to send funds and knows he has them deeply involved he will start getting more creative. He will say that his "command" requires that he gets a clearance to put you on a "Fiance" list so you can continue communicating with him. He will also say that he will need you to fill out a "Leave Request Form" a "Travel and Baggage Claim form" and will also ask for you to pay for " Travel Arrangements". This is all so he can talk to and come home to his " True love". The scammer, or his "Commanding Officer" will send Emails with official looking forms attached for you to fill out and send back. There is often a "fee" that has to be paid in conjunction with it. 
HINT: There is absolutely no such thing as "Fiance Benefits" or "Approved Contact Lists" Also any type of leave or travel or transportation needs absolutely no requests or approval from anyone besides the Service Member and his immediate Command. Any type of paperwork for leave or travel is internal and a service members travel and luggage arrangements are arranged and funded by the military, using military or chartered airlines. The "Official Forms" are complete fabrication using copied letterheads and military like jargon to appear real
The scammer may also use tried and true methods to con the victim out of more funds. They may say they are sending a package with valuable items ( jewelry, money or gold) their unit found while "raiding an ISIS headquarters and decided to keep. They will say its worth a huge amount of money and they need you to pay a " fee" to get it through customs, of course the customs "agent" is either an offshore bank or an address in Nigeria or Ghana. They will even send photos of "the package" and "Customs tag" with your name and address on it. If you do send money to get the " package" the scammer will keep contacting you, sometimes posing as a " customs agent" or Interpol saying there is a problem with the tag  and requesting even more money. If you don't send it they may say that you can be charged as an accomplice  and arrested, all in hopes of getting more money from you.
HINT: As you might guess by now, there never is a package and the picture is a generic photo copied with your info pasted on to it. It never exited. There is no customs or police investigation, just a scammer trying to milk you dry.
The Scam plays out when the victim finally realizes the "Soldier" she fell for is never coming, and has bilked her out of everything she can send. Once the victim firmly states she has nothing else the scammer will become either " upset" because she doesn't love him and try to convince her to beg, steal or borrow to get even more money. The Scammer will continue this cycle over and over.
Conclusion: What I laid out is the absolute worse scenario. Often the victim will realize after they have sent money that they are dealing with a scammer and things will end. Victims I have spoken to have lost anywhere from 150 to 100,000 dollars. Even with the low dollar amounts the victims have suffered through a lot of emotional trauma. More than once I have to talk them out of harming themselves or taking other drastic action.

 What is a sure way to find out if someone is a Scammer

As for methods to immediately know if someone is a scammer there are several ways that I as a retired military member can see through their fake stories. I can't really pass 20 years experience to someone in a paragraph or two, and scammers certainly have the ability to google enough information to sound legitimate to someone who has never served. They often have a spiel about what their rank, job title and duties are, all copied from easily accessible internet sources.
First a scammer will not agree to call or skype with you. They will give the excuse that its not allowed for security reasons. Using logic, if they were involved in some high security type of deployment they wouldn't be allowed to use the internet or phone to talk to a complete stranger either. Deployed service members don't spend their entire deployment locked in mortal combat with ISIS. They have "down time" in which they are able to go to a secure base, clean up equipment, take showers, do laundry and relax. There are small post exchanges there where they can purchase health items, plus small electronics and there are places to get burgers, fries, etc. They also have internet access and buildings with a large amount of phones in it. They can purchase or use phone cards and often can call for no charge at all. I will add that there are ATM machines and check cashing places in these rear areas. In short if you are contacted by a real service member via internet they should be able to at a minimum call you. If they are messaging they can simply walk to the next building and call.
In line with that a scammer will not be able to provide you with a photograph that you have him strike a certain pose in or holding up a hand written note. They have are only able to copy a few photos of a service member off the internet and chances are none of them are the pose you pic. Be aware that in some cases a scammer will find a photo of a service member holding up an object and photo shop letters and dates in it. Usually this is easily detected if you enlarge the photo.
One last easy tip is that a scammer will not be able to provide you with a military address to send him anything. The scammer will insist than other than transferring funds overseas to an anonymous account, the only other way to get him items is through am "agent" in you guessed it,, Nigeria or Ghana. I would like to add that sometimes the scammer may be in the US or use an accomplice here, and they will say that person is a relative. US service members deployed overseas use the military mail system. Every piece of mail or package goes through an APO (Army Post Office) if they are Army or Air Force or an FPO (Fleet Post Office) if they are Navy or Marine Corps. There is NO exception to this rule. They will never be a foreign address or country indicated. Here are a few examples of deployed Military addresses.

Capt John Doe
unit 45013  Box 2666
APO AP 96338

Sgt James Smith
2 Cav Div A Co 1st Plt
Camp Victory
APO AE 09388

CPO Jay Ball
USS Dakota
A-3 Division
FPO AE 09565.

If you noticed the zip codes in those addresses are close to zip codes in San Francisco and New York, which are locations where Military Post Offices are that process mail overseas. A scammer will not use these addresses if he wants to receive anything from you. 
One last tip is to do a Google Image search on the photos the scammer is using. In many cases scam alert sites may have these images as being used by several different scammer profiles.

 The delicate issue of nude photos

As far as nude photos often scammers will convince their victim to send explicit photos of themselves. This can be embarrassing but victims need to realize its water under the bridge. The worst thing about it is that scammers will threaten to "publish" them and try to blackmail the victim. This is always a bluff and just an attempt to squeeze out more money from the Victim.

After the scam ends

After someone realizes they have been scammed or are simply being targeted there are several steps to take.
The first is come to grips with the fact that you will NOT get your money back. Its the same as if you dropped cash in a street of a crowded city and didn't realize it until the next day.
If you feel your bank account or credit card info may have been comprised alert the companies and get new cards and account numbers. ( I've not heard of this happening in MRS's but it is a possibility.
The second is to report the scammer profile to the site you met them on and block all contact. You may want to consider creating a new profile or email account and deleting the old ones. The same with your phone. Changing all of these may seem extreme but the thing to realize is that the scammer who you were dealing with knows them. While you are onto his one fake profile he may have several others he will contact you on. Perhaps with a totally different type of scam. One thing I have noted is that victims are sometimes  contacted by someone claiming to be a "Scam Recovery Agent" who will say they can get all your money back. They will ask for details and say they are on to who scammed you and are ready to arrest them and recover what you lost. Of course there will be an "Official Report Form" to fill out... and a fee that must be sent to.. you guessed it Nigeria.
 Another thing to do is to report this to your local PD. Gather whatever receipts you have and make them take a report. While it may seem embarrassing its important that figures and statistics on these crimes be bought to law enforcement's attention at all levels. Get your story out, even if you remain anonymous. 
One last thing is to NOT become obsessed with the real service member in the stolen images. I have run into this in way to many cases. The victim of the scam says they want to find the "real" soldier and warn them. Reading between the lines I know the real reason is that they have fallen for the man in the picture and want to contact them in hopes of actually connecting. While scammers may use pictures of high ranking officers ( Generals) that are easily found on Wikipedia a large number of images are not traceable. I do not attempt to find them and neither should the victim for several reasons. First the service members privacy has already been violated and he may have already been contacted several times already. If he is in a relationship the last thing he needs is having to explain to his partner why he keeps getting contacted by women from dating sites. Delete the photos and move on.

Who is the person on your military scammer facebook cover?

I'm glad you asked that question. That person is one of the reasons I started the page. He is not a military romance scammer in the sense that he is not a Nigerian who scams victims into sending money overseas. His name is Dennis Howard Chevalier and he lives in the Dallas Fort Worth area. He was exposed by the Stolen Valor Community about 4 years ago for claiming to be a USAF Lt Col Pilot and Veteran of Desert Storm. While uncovering his lies about his service we uncovered that he had been married 6 times and uses dating sites and lies about his military service, being a Police Officer and a Doctor in Forensic Psychology  to pick up women on the internet.
His method is to quickly get who he is dating to marry him then take control of their assets and lives and use them while emotionally abusing them. He has been married and divorced  twice more since he was first exposed for a total of 8 times. 
If I come across a case of stolen valor where a person acts like he does I will post their information on my page. Because of face book's rules I blacked out his face, but if you look back on my page I have him and three others that I profiled in case women in the US get contacted by them on a dating site. In his case, it actually worked, I had a woman contact me who had met him through a dating site and thought there was something off about him. I was able to tell her his story and she googled him and dodged the bullet
Thank you very much for asking me about my page and what I do. Please contact the page at any time if you have any Questions